Hey everyone! You may know from my Instagram lately how busy things have been for our little family. Between being sick, attempting not to neglect my blog, trying to get ready for moving and everything else that life is throwing at us we decided that it was the best option for us to homeschool our kids.
We have awesome timing like that.
I debated with myself about if I should share this, not wanting to be a “ranting” or “downer” blog but I think it is worth it.
First my backstory…
When I was young my mom started homeschooling us (my brothers and I). It was crazy awesome from our point of view because we got to do our school work and then play or do whatever we wanted. And generally what we wanted was to adventure and learn more. We also took trips all over the U.S. during the “school year” and in summer and during these trips we learned history, geography, math, and so much more. But most importantly we were learning how to actually apply those things in real life by learning through experience.
It was a lot of fun and I honestly believe I retained more information because it wasn’t just about crunching in and memorizing for tests, it was about having fun. And we were defiantly social, we had homeschool group that met up once a month that went on outings like ice skating and hiking. I don’t have a single bad memory actually. Everybody always seemed happy and vibed that happiness out into the universe.
Never once did I (personally) meet someone that picked on my brothers and I or someone that was just plain rude and mean. Everybody had their friends but if we all wanted to play together we didn’t have a problem with that either.
Then I started going to a private school and then public school before I entered college. My first introductions into how cruel kids could be and that was about the same time I started really disliking school. Before this, learning had been something fun, something I wanted to do. After I entered the public school system for good, books and studying, even though I still liked it, just wasn’t the same and became more of an escape from the surroundings that I hated.
Aerianna started Kindergarten just last year. She was ecstatic about it! Loved the idea of meeting new friends and learning new things, quite like myself in that way. When we went in to sign her up she was just shining. They had her take there entry tests and she was ahead of most of the kids there, already writing her name, knowing all the colors and shapes and most of the alphabet and numbers.
She just couldn’t wait to start school! We met her teacher, who was nice, and she met some of her future classmates at the meet and greet they held and she even attended a “pre-kindergarten” class a month before school actually started.
After a couple weeks of her going to school though we started noticing a huge difference in her attitude. She didn’t want to eat any of the foods she once liked, she didn’t want to read (or help me read) anymore. She was punching her brother and throwing massive fits.
I was very worried about her, but I pushed it off as being just regular “kid stuff” and she would get past it. She was making friends and always seemed happy after she was picked up from school so of course it didn’t click with me.
Then she started asking, even begging me to stay home from school. It didn’t seem right. So I started really paying attention to her. For an entire day I just watched her every move. Here is what I noticed:
- She was extremely emotional. More so than the usual 5 year old should be.
- She wasn’t eating… From breakfast to dinner she had VERY LITTLE food and aside from force feeding her I couldn’t do anything about it, I mean the food was there, she just wasn’t eating it. Always finding some excuse.
- She was very rude. Saying spiteful things, and ignoring what anybody said.
- She would not talk to me. At all.
I tried asking her what was bothering her so much but she wouldn’t say so I just continued trying to make things better her for here.
Then came her father daughter dance…
My husband came to me with some interesting news after this event that made me re-think how she was doing at school with friends. Every time she went up to talk to one of her friends he said that they would just walk off. EVERY TIME. Leaving her to dance alone or with her dad. Which, don’t get me wrong, she loves dancing alone and with her daddy, but she was quite upset about her “friends”.
Then later that week my mom told me that my daughter was refusing food because the kids at her school were calling her fat. And that she didn’t want to read because the other kids could read better and faster than her, so she thought she was stupid.
There it was… The sad answer to her recent behavior. My daughter was being called FAT and STUPID in kindergarten! F.Y.I. My daughter is almost 6, weighs in at about 55-60 pounds, is tall and has the most adorable cheeks in the world, always has…In absolutely no way is she fat and she is definitely not stupid. I do not even know why Kindergarteners would think that way in the first place, it is mind boggling to me, kids are not supposed to worry about things like that.
Our world is so weight obsessed it is sickening, and we are passing that to our (very) young children.
I had been thinking about homeschooling for a while, just here and there thoughts about travel and family dynamics, but after this happened we made the decision immediately. I had been bullied in high school and that was bad enough, but to be picked on and called fat at such a young age never knowing when it would stop, I cannot even imagine what that would do to her. I don’t want to know.
I am so unimpressed with the current state of the world right now.
Thank the universe that we are blessed enough that I am able to stay home with our children and teach them! I just wish we would have done it sooner.
On to happier things, we have “officially” been at it for a week and even though Aerianna still has some attitude adjusting to do she is so much better. It seems unlikely that a week could make a difference but it has. She now (THANKFULLY) is starting to eat most of her food again, at least the food she was eating before all of this… still can’t get her to eat peas but I am ok with that now as long as she is eating everything else! We have been doing “damage control” with her for this, but not quite sure how to re-convince a 5 year old that she is not fat.
I am very excited about homeschooling my children and cannot wait to share the process and planning aspects of it all with you!
Even though this was a (very) long post and it seems very much like a journal entry, I just really wanted to share it because I have seen so many “stop bullying” campaigns and never paid much attention to them because I was out of the fire for bullying. Then my daughter had to go through this and I just don’t understand how children, young innocent children, go from having fun and making friends in an instant to being so cruel.
I would like to say one more thing about this, not specifically to anybody but just to say.
If we spent as much time with our children as we did on social media or T.V. our children would thrive so much more. If we took the time to talk to our kids about how to treat others rather than sharing a post on Facebook about it things might actually change.
STOP SHARING AND START ACTING!
Kindergarten (and school in general) should be a place of happiness and fun, where you make friends and enjoy all that life is offering your spongy brain, not a place where you develop eating disorders and a fear of how people see you.
That is all for today, thank you for reading.